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→→→→ vertical line TOPIC: WHAT EVER HAPPENED TO ALL THE NATURAL GIRLS? (OT)
vertical line Posted on Apr.10.2007 @ 12:09PM EDT by vfrvfr
What ever happened to all the natural girls?
I see that girls at the pool and beach have to pierce their belly buttons and have crap hanging from it. They have charms on their shoelaces, charms hanging on their cell phones glued to their ears and a ring on every finger. Their 'cup cakes' are all plastic as well as their lips. If they don't silicone the breasts, then they are tattooed or nipples pierced.
Breasts don't need a damn thing to embellish them - they are perfect as is.
The girls pierce their genitals, have studs inside their mouths and noses. Tons of rings running up and down their ears.  And many of them seem to have the sensitivity 'down there' of one that has been vibrating with belt sander.
I don't look at porno much, I'm not a prude, but being a sex addict I had to cut it out about 95% if I wanted any peace. But in the off chance I take a peek, the sex seems so artificial and the girl has to be choked at the end by the guy or slapped around and abused. It is really not a turn on any longer. It is like watching robots having sex.
(...) writes:   "This girl I am with now wants me to put my hand around her neck and choke her...not even during sex - like when we kiss or before sex. Is this normal?"

I guess choking is a natural progression for search of higher highs for the insatiable sex addict. Same with all this external stuff that women grasp at seeking happiness - looking for inner fulfillment through outer possessions.
From: How to Want What You Have:
"People who dedicate their lives to the pursuit of sensual pleasure find that the more pleasure they get, the more they want. Small, ordinary pleasures soon lose their power to please and must be replaced with more intense or exotic ones. Heedless sensualists usually meet a bad end. They learn the hard way that their desires are relentless and insatiable."
Once in a while I see a nice, natural girl, without tons of makeup that exudes inner and outer beauty. Fresh pink skin, clean, plain and nicely groomed hair and dressed neatly. No, she is not a hot babe if one judges them by current trends, but she exhibits her 'hotness' in a way that seems to be lost nowadays...freshness and wholesomeness.
Now, I seldom get a chance to talk with these wholesome beauties, so I am judging them by externals. No doubt surface appearance is not reliable, and their inner beauty may not match their outer beauty, but at least it is a start in the right direction.

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For free access to my earlier posts on voluntary simplicity, compulsive spending, debting, compulsive overeating and clutter write: vfr44@aol.com. Any opinion expressed here is that of my own and is not the opinion, recommendation or belief of any group or organization.

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Reply from stephen
Apr.10.2007
12:58PM EDT 
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vertical line "The problem with sex according to Buddhism... Is not the activity of sex, but the desire for sex. The sexual desire of a human being will never be ultimately satisfied through sexual activity." MU
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Reply from Lynnoh
Apr.10.2007
01:32PM EDT 
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read the other day..that it is naive? to believe that all things "natural" are good and healthy...as there are plants that are naturally poison.

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Reply from Lynnoh
Apr.10.2007
01:34PM EDT 
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Quote: ""The problem with sex according to Buddhism... Is not the activity of sex, but the desire for sex. The sexual desire of a human being will never be ultimately satisfied through sexual activity." MU"
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to ultimately satisfy? is this to (white light)... stop forever?

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Reply from Lynnoh
Apr.10.2007
01:43PM EDT 
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vertical line its just that I don't know such things
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Reply from Lynnoh
Apr.10.2007
08:10PM EDT 
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vertical line no body ?
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Reply from zbishak
Apr.10.2007
08:21PM EDT 
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vertical line "The problem with sex according to Buddhism... Is not the activity of sex, but the desire for sex. The sexual desire of a human being will never be ultimately satisfied through sexual activity." MU

Hello stephen,

could be the closest thing to whatever does?

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Reply from kelvintan
Apr.11.2007
06:10AM EDT 
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Very Fashionable Recently

Value-Free Relationship

Vying Fantasy Result

Void Form Release .

O.N.S.O. (One Night Stand Only)

With Metta

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Reply from zbishak
Apr.12.2007
11:24AM EDT 
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as every girl a mothers child,

which one can be absent from the heart?

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Reply from -----0
Apr.12.2007
04:22PM EDT 
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Quote: ""The problem with sex according to Buddhism... Is not the activity of sex, but the desire for sex. The sexual desire of a human being will never be ultimately satisfied through sexual activity." MU"
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Isn't it rather the opposite: sex without desire is problematic and unnatural. Why should bodily desires be problematic for Buddhism?

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Reply from Daedalus
Apr.19.2007
04:26PM EDT 
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Quote: ""The problem with sex according to Buddhism... Is not the activity of sex, but the desire for sex. The sexual desire of a human being will never be ultimately satisfied through sexual activity." MU"
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Isn't it rather the opposite: sex without desire is problematic and unnatural. Why should bodily desires be problematic for Buddhism?

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there are different kinds of desire.  Purely sexual desire is rarely a good thing for any relationship.  Desire based around a deep affection is believed to be pure by Buddhist standards 

By that logic, having sex for the sake of physical release alone is not particulary good.

As for the natural girl comments earlier, I tend to agree.  I find that we are less and less content with who we are naturally and find ourselves trying to embelish our physical attributes with inanimate objects.  A shame really....  We are all blood and bones undereneath

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Reply from Lynnoh
Apr.19.2007
08:49PM EDT 
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vertical line there are some who believe the body to be a form of artist expression... the tatoo on my back tells a story...more than once
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Reply from Lynnoh
Apr.19.2007
08:50PM EDT 
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vertical line oops...looks like this one goes with "bad Karma"........ hm
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Reply from Lynnoh
Apr.19.2007
08:53PM EDT 
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vertical line well.... got to go.........   see ya
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Reply from ______
Apr.22.2007
08:30AM EDT 
vertical line You can't see the natural girls, coz all the natural girls are adorning their beauty and keeping out of your way. Next.
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Reply from ______
Apr.22.2007
09:59AM EDT 
vertical line And No. Trust me. Those non-natural, non-pink-skinned *fresh pink skin, clean, plain and nicely groomed hair and dressed neatly. No, she is not a hot babe if one judges them by current trends, but she exhibits her 'hotness'*'object girls' don't want, need or require 'free access to your previous posts'. Believe me.
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Reply from ______
Apr.22.2007
11:28AM EDT 
vertical line What ever happened to all the Likely Lads?
Naxt.
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Reply from viplex
Apr.28.2007
08:16PM EDT 
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vertical line I think you are not alone with your natural girl preference. Fashion does not necessarily represent the taste of men. At least I hope so..
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Reply from Govindi
Apr.29.2007
07:13PM EDT 
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Quote: ""The problem with sex according to Buddhism... Is not the activity of sex, but the desire for sex. The sexual desire of a human being will never be ultimately satisfied through sexual activity." MU"
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So true, Stephen

It is the Grasping for the pleasure of sex... Desire dosen't satisfy... one can still desire the flower with out smelling it... all pleasure is just for the moment... impermantent... just as all pain/sadness/suffering is impermanant. I enjoy the smell of a rose, It will smell sweeter if I don't smell it as often...

Jaya Rustic...

Metta to All :-)

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Reply from Lynnoh
Apr.30.2007
11:39AM EDT 
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Quote: ""The problem with sex according to Buddhism... Is not the activity of sex, but the desire for sex. The sexual desire of a human being will never be ultimately satisfied through sexual activity." MU"
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So true, Stephen

It is the Grasping for the pleasure of sex... Desire dosen't satisfy... one can still desire the flower with out smelling it... all pleasure is just for the moment... impermantent... just as all pain/sadness/suffering is impermanant. I enjoy the smell of a rose, It will smell sweeter if I don't smell it as often...

Jaya Rustic...

Metta to All :-)

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what? it will smell sweeter? you all confuse me here... do you think the smeel of a flower depends upon your nose? or your spacing of times between? beautiful thought but....  

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Reply from Lynnoh
Apr.30.2007
11:53AM EDT 
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vertical line how many flowers does it take to make a bouquet?
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Reply from Govindi
May.01.2007
08:43PM EDT 
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To my nose the rose smells sweet... to yours maybe not as sweet... to someone else's nose... repugnant... or maybe sweeter still to another's.

Grasping for the pleasure... is sometimes what makes the smell rancid. I was using a metaphor...

Metta to All  :-)

PS>>> A bouquet is as many as pleases the reciever... Maybe none...

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Reply from Lynnoh
May.02.2007
11:47AM EDT 
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Reply from Govindi
May.02.2007
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metaphor= An idea that tickles the mind... (comparing sex to a flower) I thought, at one time in my life, that the more "bouquets" the better, or Maybe  having many different flowers made for a better "bouquet" (sniff)

Metta to all... :-)

Hmmm......

 Metta-four......

(#1loving kindness/ #2 be safe/ #3 be free of suffering/ #4 be happy)

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