When Yang-shan Hui-chi (807-883), as a young monk, paid a visit to the Ch'an master Hsing-k'ung, there was a monk who asked Hsing-k'ung:
-What is the meaning of the Patriarch's coming from the West?
Needing to be needed is related to loneliness and is an obstacle to freedom. Neediness is simply neediness - a need that will never be satisfied. When I no longer need to be needed and stop wanting to be wanted, I realise aloneness and see Love.
when the grandson gets squirrelly... I tell him to take out his patience out of his pocket and to put it on...hahahaha ...but often he says to this, "I can't grandma..I gave it away.." what can one say to such generousity...hmmmm