Ching Ch'ing, a Chinese Ch'an master, asked a monk:
-What is the sound outside?
The monk answered:
-That is the sound of rain.
The master said:
-Sentient beings are upside down, they lose themselves in pursuit of things.
Needing to be needed is related to loneliness and is an obstacle to freedom. Neediness is simply neediness - a need that will never be satisfied. When I no longer need to be needed and stop wanting to be wanted, I realise aloneness and see Love.
when the grandson gets squirrelly... I tell him to take out his patience out of his pocket and to put it on...hahahaha ...but often he says to this, "I can't grandma..I gave it away.." what can one say to such generousity...hmmmm