Nan-in, a Japanese master during the Meiji era (1868-1912), received a university professor who came to inquire about Zen.
Nan-in served tea. He poured his visitor's cup full, and then kept on pouring.
The professor watched the overflow...
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What's not sangha about the laity?. Monks and non-monks - variously, segregated/separate sleeping quarters, bathroom facilities, sometimes separate meditation halls with donations of money, food, and certain communal luxury goods [tv time], chocolate with no smoking, one alcoholic beverage vs none whatever for monks with English teaching the natives and building materials on the side.
I was serious before, lay practitioners can get laid, even in Japan. I believe celibacy is a primary aspect of 'lay practitioner'/'sequestered monk' Buddhist practice.
The structure of the OP inquiry is somewhat ambiguous so I was just taking a stab in the dark.