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  Chang-ch'o, an educated man, once asked the Chinese Ch'an master Chih-t'sang:
-Is there paradise or hell?
Chih-t'sang replied:
-No.
Chang-ch'o protested:
-That is not correct. When I was studying under the priest... continue...

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→→→→ vertical line TOPIC: BEING WITH A DYING FRIEND.
vertical line Posted on Jan.16.2009 @ 03:29PM EDT by Woodsman
At first, I didn't even know who she was, or that she was so ill, I looked at her and thought, "Who is this?"

Then I learned from another who she was, and in my mind the past, and our path together came into focus.

Then I had to go to her, and share more time.

I couldn't speak, but our eyes connected, beyond words.

I had felt the sadness, even before I saw her.. Our past arose in another form even before I'd known it.

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Reply from so_teh
Jan.16.2009
05:37PM EDT 
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Two minds distinct yet inexorably one...

A chapter from Bonnie Myotai Treace

Will you sit with me?

A dying student called her and asked this...

Someone had told the student it was preferable to leave the body unmoved for a period of three days after it had passed on. He took up the question "what is the nature of three days, of time itself?"

Buddhas teachings say  "One moment, ten thousand years. Ten thousand years, one moment."

Layman Toba Hearing the sound of a stream in a mountain valley wrote:

The sound of the valley stream

is his great tongue,

the colors of the mountains

are his pure body.

In the night,

I have heard eighty-four thousand hymns,

But how to tell it to people

the next day? 

                                                                                                         

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Jan.17.2009
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Reply from Woodsman
Jan.17.2009
09:29AM EDT 
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vertical line Even before I was assigned to care for my dying friend, I was wanting to help her, and only had to ask in my mind. But in my mind I became speechless, and looking for some words to fill the void between us, some book was needed because there is no one in the flesh with me in this, but I hadn't the time to read, because I was given the opportunity to care for her all night, to bring her through the pain, fear, and sadness. First, I managed her pain, but it was not me, I did nothing, but give her medicine for relief.

And last night, on my first night off, I read...

"In one of the sutras, the Buddha is asked how one person helps another face death"

No way!

Uh huh, way.
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