On one occasion, the Buddha said to the monks this:
"No other form do I know, O monks, that so persists in obsessing the mind of a man as the form of a woman. The form of a woman persists in obsessing the mind of a man.
Each one of us are born into a stream. We must get in touch with the waters of life, know ourselves as a continuation of the world, serve our families and make new friends. We should intuitively know oneness but we should not lose our purpose in oneness. To see wisdom in the actual moment is to live an inspired life, outside the need for an explanation.
When there is no understanding to stand on then there is a cleanly reflected image of what truly is. Most of us cling to a specific frame of reference, an agenda, a ground of being, a way in which to see things. Without these we finally encounter reality, as it is. Yet even still, karma brings us back to a reference point. The insight we gain from direct experience becomes tainted by preferences once again, so that it is only possible to gain such insight and then drop it siultaneously...in order to fully practice. So i have become comfortable with the fact that at times my preferences or attachments which I am not aware of, will arise, and in that moment is the benefit of becoming aware of them, if i am present when those buttons are pushed. It is a work in progress. There is no completion