On one occasion, the Buddha said to the monks this:
"No other form do I know, O monks, that so persists in obsessing the mind of a man as the form of a woman. The form of a woman persists in obsessing the mind of a man.
Our interest in Zen is to keep a natural, conscious watch on everything before, after and in-between. We lesson our suffering through the healing of attention. And we can learn from every experience, however momentary, by our physical and mental awareness in the now.